Why We Love Ali Gatie & Rod Wave’s Sad Songs | Genius News

JACQUES: Sad music has a time and place but
if you’re in that mood, artists like Rod Wave… Ali Gatie… And Kid Cudi’s somber hums are there to lift you up. JACQUES: But why do we listen to sad songs when we’re down? DR. LIILA TARUFFI: They are allowed to express
their own emotions so they experience a sort of catharsis or venting of the negative emotional
experience through music. JACQUES: That’s Dr. Liila Taruffi, a music
researcher at Durham University in the UK. She is the co-author of a 2014 study,
“The Paradox of Music-Evoked Sadness: An Online Survey,” where she found that quote. JACQUES: Dr. Taruffi’s research showed that people seek out sad music for obvious situations. DR. LIILA TARUFFI: For most of the people they
tend to seek sad music when they are feeling some sort of emotional distress. When they’re going through a break up,
loss of a person as well as the death of a person as well as stress at work. JACQUES: And it can make us feel happier. DR. LIILA TARUFFI: People get a sort of comfort
from the music as if it were a surrogate from an emphatic friend. People feel like they’re sharing their
negative emotional experience with someone else. JACQUES: But I wanted a real world take on
this so I pinged a few colleagues to see what they thought. JACQUES: Mikey! *Laugh*
MIKEY: * “Sir! BRIANA: Do I look at the camera or look at
you? JACQUES: Look at me
BRIANA: Hey! JACQUES: When do you listen to sad music? MATT: I listen to sad music all the time. BRIANA: When I’m in my feels I’m feeling sad. In a way, yeah, it does sorta make me feel better. MIKEY: On gloomy days the first thing I’m putting on is like quote unquote sad music. DELISA: It makes me feel seen and like I’m
not alone. JACQUES: Dr. Taruffi says feeling ‘seen’
is called ‘emotional communion.’ DR. TARUFFI: When a person feels they can
share their emotional experience with an author of a song and this idea that somebody else in the world is having the same life circumstances or emotional experience seems to be a great source of comfort. JACQUES: And my colleagues agreed. BRI: I feel better because I’m connecting
with whoever is singing the sad song and I’m like, ‘Man, we’re just sad together.’ MATT: My friends have always been like if
you’re sad, why do you listen to sad music? I’m like it’s an experience you just gotta
go through it. DELISA: A song when I’m going through any
type of break up. ‘Nobody’ by Mitski is probably like top 2 and it’s
not 2. BRI: Lately when I’m feeling down, I just want to relish that feeling lately I’ve
been listening to “Cellophane” by FKA Twigs. MATT: “Real Love” by Beach House. MATT: When I was going through some love problems back in college, I always go back to that one. JACQUES: But Dr. Taruffi says one person’s sad song can be another’s happy song. DR. TARUFFI: What you made of that song, what that song represented for you in your life, that counts more at the end of the day. JACQUES: But apparently listening to a song
after a break up is not always the best idea. GUY WINCH: If you’re trying to get over
someone, do you want to evoke all those feelings and associations or not is a question you should be asking yourself. JACQUES: That’s Guy Winch, author of “How
To Fix A Broken Heart.” He told us that a tough break up affects us
in the brain. GUY: The withdrawals of romantic love is the
same as the withdrawal of opioids for an addict. You are jonesing for a fix, nothing matters
to you more than getting a fix of that person. JACQUES: With that context, it’s easy to
understand why so many lyrics about heartbreak deal with a feeling of being near death – like
Ali Gatie’s “Losing You.” And Kanye West’s “Heartless.” JACQUES: And why people could grow callous towards love – as explained on Rod Wave’s
2016 cut “Heartbreak Hotel.” JACQUES: Guy believes music after a break up could be either good thing… GUY: You’re using it as a way to say goodbye
to the person separating and really coming to terms with the fact that it’s over it
can be useful. JACQUES: Or a bad thing… GUY: But if you’re listening to that song a month
later and you’re still associating it with the person who broke your heart, it’sgoing to be painful and it’s really going to set you back. JACQUES: But all in all, time heals all wounds
– best explained by Lil Uzi Vert. I’m Jacques Morel with Genius News, bringing you the meaning and the knowledge
behind the music. Peace!